Actually, You Don't Need to Make Lemonade
"when life gives you lemons, make lemonade!" AKA - leverage something hard or painful into something beautiful or meaningful. And while this may be excellent advice for some people sometimes, I'm here to tell you that making lemonade is not mandatory.
If you want to throw the lemons, throw them. If you want to slice them up, do that. If you want to put them in your fridge and deal with them later, that is okay too!
Toxic positivity is the ideal that we need to reject any negative feelings and only embrace the positive. It's called toxic positivity because it's toxic. I'm not saying finding good in a situation is a bad idea, I'm just saying it's your life and you choose what to do with the lemons. You're allowed to feel hard emotions, and letting them fester by mustering positivity could lead to a breakdown eventually, because you never processed those emotions.
We had a mass shooting. We have sick family members. We are isolated and lonely. And if someone tried to put a positive spin on 23 victims of a shooting, I would probably throw the lemons at them.
Sometimes, there isn't a positive. That's okay. Feel your emotions. Mourn with those who mourn. Weep with those who weep. Cope with tragedy and distress constructively - and you can define that for yourself. Maybe it means sending letters. Maybe it means writing it all out. Maybe it means calling a friend.
Be positive, yes. But feel real, other emotions too.
But certainly, nowhere, ever, is it mandatory to make lemonade from lemons.
Personally, I like to smash them ;)
Until next Monday,
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